8 moves, a house, a graduation, a wedding, a house sale and now… a divorce... or how you feel lost at 25 years old
Written by Valérie Pichet
I am thrilled to be writing for this blog for the first time! I’m so happy that this place allows me to share my experience and some personal stuff to inspire you.
I need to express myself, to write down how I feel because I’m sure that my experience can help you. It can also make you realize that you are not the only one at a crossroads. If your choices are like mine, all of them very different, you need to ask yourself the same questions I’m asking myself: which road should I take? Only you have the answer; only you need to look for it. Right now, I think my life is such a spiritual mess. A little bit like a midlife crisis, but it’s happening at 25 years old.
DID YOU HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS TOO?
If so, I can imagine how you feel. I never stop doubting. The hamster wheel never stops spinning in my head, and it’s exhausting! A lot of people around me tell me that this state of mind won’t last, that I will get through it and that it will soon be forgotten. That I just have to live this once in my life, hopefully. Well, I’m the only one in that situation; no one has gone through something like this around me.
HAVE YOU EVER FELT SO LOST THAT EVEN YOUR OWN COMPASS CAN’T SHOW YOU THE NORTH?
I’m 25 years old, and I’m tired.
I’ve lived a whole life in 7 years. We’ve moved 8 times, bought a house, graduated, got married, sold the house, and we are now divorcing.
I feel lost, and I’m only 25 years old… can you understand?
These days I’m working so hard to keep my head above water. For the first time in my life, I have to deal with things I never thought I would have to.
– How do you change a well water filter?
– How do you fix a leaking toilet?
– How do you set the thermostat of your oil furnace?
#Truestory: the first time I had to mow the lawn, I turned on my tractor while talking to my dad so he could tell me how to! LOL
THIS STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMAN WILL SOON NEED A BREAK
Truth be told, it’s exhausting to act normal. I’m feeling so tired that I can’t say no to people who want to help me or to hide my problems. The truth is that I can’t do this anymore. Before ruining the rest of my mental health, I have to make some tough decisions.
I know that one day, I might meet someone who’s gone through a similar path in life. I hope my experience will comfort them and help them not to feel lonely.
Keep smiling because life won’t be dark forever! 😊
This post was translated from French to English by:
I am Charlene. I was born in France but I live in Quebec City since 2007. I am a 32-year-old married mom of 2 (a boy and a girl), a part-time student (translation) and also a hockey mom 😉 I decided to go to university at 31 because I love foreign languages and I needed a new challenge. I love food and wine (I’m French you remember 😉 ), I have a very long travel bucket list and I practice Zumba and Yoga.
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