Léa NadeauAs we are currently potty training Téo, I went to buy him underwears. Well, as he loves the movie Moana so much, I couldn’t help myself when I saw in the girl’s section the Moana underwear, I had to get them for him.
I didn’t think anything of it, so I took the pack of underwear and went home thinking he was going to love it. All I was thinking was, as he loves Moana so much, he would probably try to avoid peeing on her as she figures on his panty. Things only a mother could think of! #lol
Here I am, coming back home, proud of myself, without never thinking about the fact that I had just bought girl’s underwear for my son to wear. But from the moment I got home, I received all sorts of comments for doing so.
But really?
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It’s 2018.
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Why?
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I’m trying to ignore those useless comments as I don’t believe a print or a colour and mostly not a famous movie character should be reserved for girls only or vice versa.
It left me speechless.
How can I teach my boys now that it’s not ok? In a world full of prejudice, I find those comments should be avoided. Can I just let my son wear underwear that features one of his favorite movie characters? I don’t want to argue with anyone, but at the same time, I would like to make them understand that their ways of thinking are backward and outdated… and clearly not how I want to raise my sons.
There is a lot going on in my mind about this subject, but before going too far, I would prefer reflecting and have a better understanding of the situation.
What do you think? But most importantly, do you have those kinds of discussions at home too? Do you believe colours or objects should be reserved for a certain gender only?
Or had you never dared to test it out, scared to end up in the same situation?
I want to hear your thoughts!
Léa Nadeau
Pamela Denis
Sacha Nadeau
10 comments
I completely agree with your approach to the situation. I have never been able to fully comprehend the reasoning behind something being “for boys only” or “for girls only”. When it comes to preference; things such as clothing, toys or etc. then I believe kids should be free to explore any and all colors that they wish. Go with what your mom instinct tells you to do. Let your boy wear them.
You are fantastic and I love your style , my mother used to buy me unisex childrens briefs until the horrible Y fronts came on the market , ever since I left school I have bought myself womens panties ,some plain but most frilly . hope your son enjoys his nice girly knickers.
Comfort (and excitement for staying dry) are of Paramount importance. Presumably, few will even see the underwear. As long as your son is happy, that’s what matters. I wouldn’t worry unless he was older and would potentially be bullied, such as in the locker room.
When your son grows up and still wears panties, will you still support him? And what if your man starts wearing panties? Will you be ok with that as well? I will not judge you, but in general most women will not like their man wearing panties. So when your son starts dating and still wears panties that might get to be a problem. Or will you stop him from wearing girl’s underwear when he turns seven? Or ten, or whatever age you think it will not be appropriate anymore to wear clothes dezigned for the other sex.
There is definitely nothing wrong with wearing nice underwear with a nice print on it, but boys even at a very young age are very aware that what they are wearing was not intended to be worn by boys. And quite often they will like it. And they will not want to stop wearing those soft and pretty things. And then they grow up with a secret part of their life.
It happened to me. But in my case it was not my mum that started it, I did it myself form the age of four or maybe even before that…
It’s absolutely fine. You have done the right thing and if it makes your son happy, then do not let anyone tell you it’s wrong. If anyone has a problem with it, then it really is their problem. The whole “Blue for boys, pink for girls” is a dated concept, that thankfully being eroded. And when he grows up and if he continues to wear knickers then so what? He will be happier for it and be forever greatful to you, for being a supportive and loving, Mother.
Yes i too started out at a young age but had to hide it from the world. And it may be true that it could provide a difficult situation later on . But in todays time 2022 , they have mens thong underwear out and mens underwear that look just like girls panties with no flap in front. But allowing a child to be them selfs makes for a well rounded man later on in life. Today i wear girls clothes openly. Its just clothing , it does not define who i am inside. Besides that i see nothing wrong with it.
This shouldn’t be to much of an issue or a problem, but I would buy him some boys underwear and see which he prefers. If anyone finds out he may get bullied, and in locker rooms they will find out, but if he enjoys wearing them encourage it and maybe choose male underwear for times in which he may have to take them off or you risk bullying. I don’t know what to do about dating? Some adult women may think it’s cute, but I don’t know about young ones. They may want their boys to not wear girly things. It is 2021, but it still isn’t fully accepted by all, but it is not seen as evil or unlawful just a little strange, but look at it this way. You are encouraging a kid to be who he wants even if it means. You asked a question publicly. You may be a pioneer in this respect. Maybe just maybe you will be instrumental in getting the world to accept it.
what an uproar over nothing!! It is one pair of children’s underwear because it depicts his favorite movie character!
Geez! No one is going to be able to parent if each small action is liable to cause lifelong Trauma!
I think if it’s just a picture of one of his favorite movie characters and you don’t tell him they are girls underwear it’s no big deal.
Now let’s say he’s 12-14 and he wants to wear actual panties you know the ones that have frilly lace ,a lot of bows and ribbons on them will you still support his feminine desires?
Personally, as a father of a 7 year old boy I see nothing wrong with this. My son loves Paw Patrol and his 2 favorite pups are Skye and Everest; neither of which are available as prints on boy undies. So, I did like you and bought my son some girls Paw Patrol panties and he loves them. He knows they are girls panties but he doesn’t care; all he knows is he now has undies with his favorite characters on them. The way I see it, if girls can have clothing items with their favorite characters (whether they be male or female) on them, why can’t boys?