Why we’ve decided not to find out baby’s gender!

What are you thinking?

I know, I know! I teased you guys a little with my previous article, starring me trying to uncover the baby’s gender with old wives’ tale.

Well, what I failed to tell you is that the husband and I, we’ve decided not to find out the baby’s gender in advance since early in the pregnancy.

We want to keep it our icing on the cake, our final surprise.


It has almost been 10 years since my husband and I have been together.  Looking back, ever since the beginning, we’ve always talked about this detail of pregnancy. At first, I was like, “Of course we need to know!”. For my husband, there was no way we would get to know in advance.

Fast forward to today — we’re pregnant and awaiting our first child.

As we got over the subject many times with my husband, I was prepared for such an idea, and it crystallized in my mind when speaking with my midwife.


Deep down, I really wish for natural childbirth, and that is one of the reasons I chose the cares of a midwife.

On the very first appointment as I was 8 weeks pregnant, my midwife asked me if we wanted to know the baby’s gender. And the natural response was, “I don’t think we want to know; we’d like to keep it a surprise!” That’s when she told me about other moms.

I want to deliver my child naturally, so not knowing the baby’s gender in advance is a motivation, mostly in the end, when nobody can take it anymore! This is one of the reasons my midwife recommends keeping the baby’s gender a surprise.

It all went together with what we had discussed, my husband and I, since years back. It will thus be a surprise baby (on the gender’s side)! And I pretty much like the idea of not knowing. It feels like the pressure of buying everything in blue or pink —which really isn’t my type to begin with— is gone.

I can’t wait for the moment when someone will scream “It’s a boy!” or “It’s a girl!” in the delivery room.

Beautiful moments await us!

What about you, did you ask for your baby’s gender while you were pregnant?

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