Feeling like you’ve just emerged from a cave, or having 2 babies in 2 years
I’m a pretty outgoing person in general. I love being around people, chatting, sharing, mingling, learning … well, you get the picture—I’m a very sociable person!
I’m from the communications world. Whether it’s in my personal or my professional life, I’ve always been surrounded by lots of people.
Then I had a baby, and my first “maternity leave.” Then I got pregnant again, even before finishing my first maternity leave. (For those of you who are wondering, yes, it was planned, but it was a bit of a “guess” since it took us 2 years of practice before getting baby Téo. We didn’t want it to take us as long for baby number 2, so we went for a—let’s not use protection, if it works, good for us, if not, well at least we tried to speed things up—type of mind frame.)
And that’s why we decided, with this new pregnancy, that I wouldn’t go back to work afterwards. We made the choice for our collective family health—and our mental health—to enjoy more the #slowlife and to create a certain balance, considering everything that being a new family of 4 with two very young kids entails.
QUITTING YOUR JOB TO BE WITH THE FAMILY: A TOUGH DECISION
You may know that I was working as Press Secretary for the provincial government. Being in politics, shadowing a minister, being responsible for his/her calendar and travelling throughout the province of Québec is extremely demanding. Let’s just say it’s not the typical 8 to 5. My job was to be the spokesperson, the communications adviser, the press secretary and the editor—in short, to be the girl in charge of all of the Minister’s public relations.
I left this position because I couldn’t see how I could possibly create a work-life balance that incorporated the vision of the type of family that I wanted to build. All this was really hard, because I hadn’t planned, or seen it coming that I would “have to” quit my job. Being a parent changed my view on life, and since I only had 9 months in between baby #1 and baby #2, it was a heartfelt, but an unplanned decision to leave work.
I ended up resigning from a position of Press Secretary that I really, really enjoyed.
STAYING HOME: MY HIBERNATION—AND THE START OF A NEW PROJECT
Out of love for my family and my little ones, I stayed home. At first just with little Téo and growing my second belly, then raising that second baby as well. I spent weeks, then months, then almost 2 years of #momlife with 2 kids under the age of 2.
In the meantime, since I needed to stay stimulated, in some way connected and in contact with people, my sister and I started this blog.
Then all of you that are following us came along. You created this great community that I/we can communicate and share with at all times.
After that I started going out to events for the blog, meeting new people, communicating moreonce again with the outside world. MY GOD did that feel good!
That’s when it hit me. I felt like I had been hibernating and had finally emerged from my cave, literally like 2 years later.
The “outside” hasn’t changed, but at the same time, it didn’t stop either when I dropped off the face of the earth (I am barely exaggerating haha). Sometimes, I feel kind of “out of sync.”
But that feeling fades over time.
SEEING THE SUNLIGHT AGAIN: THE POLITE WAY OF SAYING I AM SLOWLY EMERGING FROM MY CAVE
Today, as I am writing these lines, I am just coming out of these two years (with an “S” please) of giving birth #lol, cuddling, breastfeeding and rocking my babies… Helloooo, it is so good to see people again!
I’m not at all saying that I regret the last 2 years. Far from it. But it still feels good to come out of my hiding hole. 🙂
The funny thing is, when I meet people, I really do have the impression that I am emerging from a cave. That I am seeing a light that I hadn’t seen for a loooong time lol. That I am from another planet, somehow a stranger to everything that is going on around me, yet with a vague impression of déjà vu.
As if it had been decades that I hadn’t seen the human species (of my age) living and interacting.
OK, I’ll stop there … but it does feel amazing to “come back to” this new/old life! Hahaha!
LAYING DOWN A PATH FOR MY FAMILY, THE WAY I ENVISION IT
If you asked me: “Do you regret going down this path?”
I would still answer today that I deeply feel that have done and that I am doing the right thing for my family and for myself by deciding to stay at home, to have my babies with me and to raise them every day, to not send them to day care and to, in general, just do what I am doing; that is to lay down a path that allows me to have a work-life balance that incorporates the vision of the family that I want to build.
Have you experienced something similar? Or on the contrary, something completely different?
Did you have the same impression I did after your maternity leave?
And how do you find it balancing work and everyday life? Do you find it easy? Hard?
Don’t be afraid to share, I want to read your stories!
This post was translated from French to English by:
Isabelle, 24 years old. I’m an easy-going girl; quick-witted and a devoted fan of puns. As much as I enjoy staying home binge-watching series and reading novels, I also love traveling and discovering new things.
Léa, 28 years old, loves my life and my 3 mens. I am a go-getter, a sociable and creative person. My heart always wants what’s real and my taste pallet always wants what’s good #foody ;). I adore to travel, to read, to make new discoveries as well as practicing yoga #Namaste.